Goodness?

What the heck is goodness? I mean we know God is good - and it says that "goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life" and there are all kinds of verses about "good" and "goodness" - but I have forgotten about the verse in 2 peter that says add to your faith ....Goodness! And then when I started thinking about it - isn't goodness a fruit of the Spirit? But when was the last time your heard someone say that God was teaching them to be "good" - but we know that it is a quality of God - because J says that only God is good - so in our transformation to be more like J, shouldn't we become "good" - and if the Spirit is making fruit in us, shouldn't we be getting more "good?" - what the heck is good? What does it mean to be good? I don't know, but I am going to find out - so if you want, chime in about the meaning of good!
so what brought this up? well, I have been doing a lot of crap for my sister as she is trying to move an entire household of goods out of the country in a few days - and I am trying to pour my life out with my friends here before I leave the country - and I am trying to get shisha every nite and pack my things as well! So I have been very busy - and when I get really busy - especially with things that I think are crap - like packing my sisters stuff, selling it - when I know that she will be mad that I haven't made enough money or didn't think about shipping it - or didn't call the right movers or threw something away that she wanted to keep - and all of that is going through my head when all I want to do is chill and hang out - and I started thinking about how do I show that I love her through all of this - and then I started thinking about that verse and I was completely stuck - because I have no idea how to be good in the midst of all of this! I don't know what it means to "be good" - I mean, when my dad used to say that, it meant "don't disobey" and when I told my students that, it meant "sit in your seats and listen" and if I told my friends that, it would mean "I am being silly" - so what does it mean when God says "add goodness to your faith?" And how does goodness differ from Faithfulness, or Kindness - I mean, what does it mean?
So for the next few weeks in all the "free time" I will have in traveling and making preparations to travel and watching Ris' kids once I am back in the States - I am going to look at this idea in the Bible and see what I can find!