Morality crisis

Lately I have been having a morality crisis! This doesn't mean that I have denied morality and lived "immorally" - but I live in a culture that is very "moral"- they don't drink, gamble or cuss - really. They dance, but only with the same sex - and they don't even really hang out with the opposite sex, so they are definitely against pre-marital sex and the like. So, they are very "moral." and I have seen my fellow followers fall into the trap of trying to be more "moral" than their neighbors - I mean, wear certain clothes, go certain places, etc. So I have been having a bit of crisis - I know that J has called us to be a peculiar people - but in what way? By being the most moral? By separating ourselves by our morality - having the right and the wrong? By making distinctions based only on works - i.e. my "morality"? Or are we peculiar in some other way? Are we to be peculiar in the way we love God and love others? Are we to be peculiar in the way that we come together as a community? And if so - why do we separate ourselves from each other? Why do we insist on making lines of "morality" for us to follow? Sometimes, I think that we think that the verse reads "you are a chosen generation, a royal preisthood, a holy nation, a peculiar people that you may show forth the praises of yourselves - who have become separated from those "bad" people in darkness and now live in "holiness" and "rightness" because of what you have done!" But that is not what it says! It says that we are peculiar "so that we might show forth the praises of HIM who called us out of darkness into His wonderful light" - note there is not a hint of our own works in that statement! It is all about Him and what He has done! That is what gets praise -not our "morality!" So today, I feel like "screw morality" and show that we are different because even though we cuss, drink and dance - we love like none other and the community you find around our sheesha pipe is so deep that all others seem like a teaspoon of water in a swimming pool - really shallow! And that we love God with all of our being and others are truly more important than ourselves! Wouldn't that make us truly peculiar?!?!?!?